When something is traded of smaller value, with something of
a larger value, the price paid by the one with the lesser value pays the
difference. That difference is the
amount given up in order to have more. This is the true price.
When someone is equal to another there is room for
compromise. When things are equal there is room to trade or swap without any
thing lost between the give and the need.
However, when things are not equal it becomes a game of the
majority being in the position of giver and the minority in the position of
receiver. It often forces the receiver to be the one to have to
compromise. Another term for this is
enslavement.
The minority has but certain things. The majority has every thing.
In a case where a father has two weekends a month and a
mother has everyday of the week and two weekends a month, there is nothing the
father can give but only take. The
mother on the other hand has everything to give and nothing she can take.
A father has only 4 days a month he can plan anything. A mother has 27 days she can do anything she
wants.
A father has only 4 days; 2 days at a time to plan anything
with his child. A mother has 27 days to
plan and do as she likes. She has liberty and he has enslavement.
Now it seems to be wrong for a father to ask for extra days,
because it only comes in the form of an award or a price. Never freely given. (Giver--Look
what I’ve done for you)
On the other hand when a mother ask for any of the 4 days of
the father and the father says, “these are the only days I have to plan with”, it becomes (Giver--you only care about your
self and not your child)
Even when a mother offers to swap days or give more time in
return for the fathers off days, it is done at the expense of the fathers off days
and the days traded or swapped for fall within his work week. This is totally
different from days being off with the child. So in reality, even though days were swapped,
the father is still at the loss with his time with his child and the mother is
in the gain while the father is at a loss.
It is a unconcerned act by the giver.
The reality is that it is a self centered act by a mother
toward the father. Blaming the father
for not caring about his kid if he does not comply with the mother’s request is
a total act of being self centered and no regards of the time a father needs
with his child.
The same rings true of a father that takes each and every
off day to spend with his child and then that one weekend out of the year that
he needs a weekend (off day) to accomplice something that can only be taken
care of or done on a off day and not when he is at work turns into the same
reality. The mother will blame the
father for not spending time with his child because he did not take her gift. In fact the mother has entrapped the father
with a gift of only 4 days a month without freedom to live life with things
that need to be done and his child. This is not compromise. This is enslavement.
When a father gives up his time, which is a bigger gift than
anything a mother can gift to the father.
(Reason; the father loses something.)
The mother just takes something freely with out thought or appreciation
of the father or the child’s need to spend time together.
It is justified by swapping days or giving extra days as a
reward for doing so. That is not justification.
It is the giver giving something that the receiver did not have in the
first place and is a gift. It is not a
tool for compromise. It is something that cannot be used as a tool to take away
what is already given. But this is how
the empowered prey upon the enslaved.
There is no
justification in not being equal. There
is no justification in swapping days when there are 4 days a month pre planned
in advance. For those days are the father to see his
child.
There is no justification for a mother to have 27 days and
really expect someone she has imprisoned from their child not to say that it is
wrong to mess with his pre planned days.
There is no
justification to claim compromise when you only have something to give and
everything to take.
I can promise you that this perceived kindness only comes
from needing something. Other wise time
would be equal. Time would be given to
the father because he simply needs to be with his child.
The illusion of
kindness is what the mother gives the father in order to take from him.
But it always turns into look what I did for you. I offered and you didn’t.
Those are excuses to
steal from the only real time a father has to plan something with his child. The mother’s
personal needs and convenience (even though she has 27 days and the father 4
days) are in reality more important than the relationship of the child and the
father.
This is the reality of an every other weekend Dad.
wel3
