THIS IS THE REALITY OF AN EVERY OTHER WEEKEND DAD.

When something is traded of smaller value, with something of a larger value, the price paid by the one with the lesser value pays the difference.  That difference is the amount given up in order to have more. This is the true price.    

When someone is equal to another there is room for compromise. When things are equal there is room to trade or swap without any thing lost between the give and the need.

However, when things are not equal it becomes a game of the majority being in the position of giver and the minority in the position of receiver. It often forces the receiver to be the one to have to compromise.  Another term for this is enslavement.

The minority has but certain things.  The majority has every thing.

In a case where a father has two weekends a month and a mother has everyday of the week and two weekends a month, there is nothing the father can give but only take.  The mother on the other hand has everything to give and nothing she can take. 

A father has only 4 days a month he can plan anything.  A mother has 27 days she can do anything she wants.

A father has only 4 days; 2 days at a time to plan anything with his child.  A mother has 27 days to plan and do as she likes. She has liberty and he has enslavement.  

Now it seems to be wrong for a father to ask for extra days, because it only comes in the form of an award or a price.  Never freely given.    (Giver--Look what I’ve done for you)

On the other hand when a mother ask for any of the 4 days of the father and the father says, “these are the only days I have to plan with”,  it becomes (Giver--you only care about your self and not your child)

Even when a mother offers to swap days or give more time in return for the fathers off days, it is done at the expense of the fathers off days and the days traded or swapped for fall within his work week. This is totally different from days being off with the child.  So in reality, even though days were swapped, the father is still at the loss with his time with his child and the mother is in the gain while the father is at a loss.  It is a unconcerned act by the giver.   

The reality is that it is a self centered act by a mother toward the father.  Blaming the father for not caring about his kid if he does not comply with the mother’s request is a total act of being self centered and no regards of the time a father needs with his child.

The same rings true of a father that takes each and every off day to spend with his child and then that one weekend out of the year that he needs a weekend (off day) to accomplice something that can only be taken care of or done on a off day and not when he is at work turns into the same reality.  The mother will blame the father for not spending time with his child because he did not take her gift.  In fact the mother has entrapped the father with a gift of only 4 days a month without freedom to live life with things that need to be done and his child. This is not compromise.  This is enslavement.  

When a father gives up his time, which is a bigger gift than anything a mother can gift to the father.  (Reason; the father loses something.)  The mother just takes something freely with out thought or appreciation of the father or the child’s need to spend time together. 

It is justified by swapping days or giving extra days as a reward for doing so. That is not justification.  It is the giver giving something that the receiver did not have in the first place and is a gift.  It is not a tool for compromise. It is something that cannot be used as a tool to take away what is already given.   But this is how the empowered prey upon the enslaved.

 There is no justification in not being equal.  There is no justification in swapping days when there are 4 days a month pre planned in advance.   For those days are the father to see his child. 

There is no justification for a mother to have 27 days and really expect someone she has imprisoned from their child not to say that it is wrong to mess with his pre planned days.

 There is no justification to claim compromise when you only have something to give and everything to take.

   

I can promise you that this perceived kindness only comes from needing something.  Other wise time would be equal.  Time would be given to the father because he simply needs to be with his child.

 The illusion of kindness is what the mother gives the father in order to take from him.     

But it always turns into look what I did for you.  I offered and you didn’t.

 Those are excuses to steal from the only real time a father has to plan something with his child.   The mother’s personal needs and convenience (even though she has 27 days and the father 4 days) are in reality more important than the relationship of the child and the father. 

This is the reality of an every other weekend Dad. 

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